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Word to You, Mother: 13 Tips On Staying Resilient From INTEGRIS Working Moms

This weekend is Mother’s Day and, perhaps not coincidentally, May is Mental Health Month. We think those two topics go together like peas and carrots! Why? Motherhood is one of life’s great joys, but it’s also HARD! So many stages! So much to keep track of! Not to mention trying to take care of yourself, perhaps a marriage and maybe even your career, a couple of pets, the laundry, housework and the yard at the same time. Yeesh!

No matter how much we love motherhood and all (or most) that comes with it, pulling off a multifaceted feat like that and keeping your work/life in balance is tough. You have to be resilient. The American Psychological Association defines resilience as “the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means ‘bouncing back’ from difficult experiences.”

Resilience is like a muscle – you have to use it or you lose it. It’s not hard to boost your resiliency quotient, but it does require getting in the habit of doing so. Some ways to do that are to nurture a positive view of yourself, keep things in perspective, maintain a hopeful outlook, avoid seeing problems as insurmountable and accept that change is a part of life.

Most importantly, realize that growing your resiliency is a work-in-progress. What you don’t want to do is let the process of gaining resilience make you stressed out. The website Mental Floss has a good article that’s a great resource for understanding exactly what resilience is, what it isn’t, and how it ebbs and flows during our lifetimes. Check it out here.

13 Tips Straight From Moms at INTEGRIS

Of course, the working moms at INTEGRIS certainly know a thing or two about resilience and trying to keep their work and life in balance. In honor of Mother’s Day, here are 13 tips from a few INTEGRIS moms on how they keep their positive attitudes, multiple trains running on lots of tracks, and their resiliency muscles in tip-top shape.

“Having a daily morning quiet time, which I spend asking for God to provide wisdom, discernment and protection for my family and work for that day, and then prioritizing accordingly. Doing this helps me keep perspective on what is really important in life.”— Pam Forducey, AVP at Arcadia Trails

“I put everything (work or family-related) on the SAME calendar, including scheduled to-dos and reminders, and review it every single morning.” — Meghan Lemmings, event supervisor

“Having a good work/life balance for me means knowing what I need for self-care. It might be a walk outside to unwind, it might be yoga, or it (definitely) might be a big piece of chocolate cake from La Baguette in bed while watching Project Runway. I also can’t expect folks to read my mind, so asking others for help is a necessity when it comes to being a mother who works. I might ask, for example: ‘Would you like to babysit so we can have a date night?’ ‘Can you assist with this late-night meeting?’ or ‘How many pieces of cake can you legally sell me?’” — Emily Trotter, IMG marketing

“I have a husband who treats me as an equal, so half of everything is his responsibility and together we each put our family first.” — Lynda VanHorn, VP of the Cancer Institute

“I am literally ‘livin’ on a prayer!’  I start every morning with family prayer on the way to my kids’ school. I also find that cooking a healthy supper every night and eating together as a family, exercising when I can, turning off all our electronics and getting a good night’s sleep help a whole lot!” — Vonda Kay Mooney, senior sales and marketing rep

“Lots of wine! Just kidding. Thank goodness for workouts, massages and good girlfriends! I also think it’s important to keep a super-positive attitude.” — Molly Ross, director of the Mind, Body and Spirit Center

“My kids are adults now, but I was a single mom, I had a full-time job and went to grad school at night. I HAD to work in exercise at least twice a week, and have prayer time daily, to stay resilient. My exercise was usually late at night after the kids went to bed or early before they woke up. It made for long days but was always worth it. For me it was healthy body, healthy brain, better mom! Also, on Friday nights I always made it a priority to have family night. We would play board games, video game competitions or just have a dance off!  Good times!” — Traci Cook, senior sales and marketing rep of Arcadia Trails

“I expect daily ‘plot twists’ and do my best to navigate them as they arise; and I look to find the humor and the lesson in each and every one of them.” — Sara Barry, business and community development liaison for Mental Health

“I struggle with this! I think it’s important for children to understand that parents have to work hard for the luxuries we all take for granted. We openly discuss when a deadline is requiring me to work additional hours, but in return we also ensure we have dedicated family time where we fully disconnect from electronics or other distractions. Personally, I dedicate time in the morning for my workout before anyone wakes up. I LOVE starting my day with this endorphin rush.  This ‘dedicated to me’ time is my true resiliency plan.” — Kerri Bayer, VP of quality control and infection prevention

“I finally learned to put away the work phone, laptop, etc. when I’m with my family. Most after-hours issues really can wait.” — Deidre Horn, interim director, sales & marketing

“I make sure I schedule ‘me’ time to do the things I genuinely enjoy when I am not at work: things like yoga, sitting in the sauna, cooking and gardening.” — Kellye Elliott, business development manager at the Cancer Institute

“I try to remember that I am one person and can only do so much. I do what absolutely must be finished that day and then give myself permission to put off the rest until tomorrow. For example, if I still have five things on my project list and it is the end of the work day, if none of them are due the next day, I go home to be with my family. Work will always be there when I return.” — Brooke Cayot, media relations lead

“I manage a healthy work/life balance by taking it one day at a time and doing the best I can each day. When I look at each week in its entirety – with all the school, homework, and extracurricular activities – it can be very overwhelming! So, I look at each day by itself and make a plan in the morning for how I will get it all finished. Having a plan reduces my stress. Also, making sure I take care of myself, too, is vitally important: exercising, taking a relaxing bath or reading a book.” — Rebecca Gregg, marketing project lead


Happy Mother’s Day! Stay Balanced and Resilient!

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